4.5.15–>”The Examen Prayer” (part 2)

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Psalm 119:59

I considered my ways, pondered the direction of my life, and turned my feet to your decrees.

Step three of the examen is review. This is that valuable habit of reflection. You simply walk back through your day, from waking up, looking for where God was at work, when you were paying attention to Him, and when you were not. 

The bigger words Ignatius used for this are consolations and desolations. In short, consolations are those things you recognize as bringing you closer to God, and desolations are those things that take you away from God. These “things” we review could very well be activities, but much of the time they will be our thoughts. We ask ourselves which thoughts were God-inspired, and which ones seemed to be inspired by the enemy in order to draw us away from God.

Never wanting to overwhelm ourselves, you may begin by reviewing just one part of your day and your thoughts that arose within it. Here are some questions you may ask:

  • Where was God in my activity today?
  • Toward what was the Lord calling me today?
  • How did I respond to this call?
  • Were there inclinations and thoughts this day that were not of God? If there were, was I able to discern and resist them?
  • Was the use of my freedom in accord with God’s loving desire for me today?
  • What brought me peace today?
  • What brought me anxiety this day?
Timothy Gallagher, in his book on this practice, says that “Each of our days is filled with a richness of interior experience: love, hopes, anxieties, joys, fears, attractions, resistances, desires, disinclinations, all accompanied by an endless flux of varied thoughts. This interior experience occurs in the context of continual and constantly changing activity: interactions with others, conversations, meals, prayer, work, travel, projects, planning, and decision-making.”

The examen helps us “make sense” of our days and to better pay attention to the activity of God that we easily overlook if we do not take the time to notice it. These spiritual practices, remember, are to bring us closer to God and create space for His filling us. And we do this in large part via intentionally paying attention to Him.

Tomorrow we will look at step four: Forgiveness.

 

Always, only, for my King

4.4.15–>”The Examen Prayer” (part 1)

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Lamentations 3:40

Let us examine and see what we have done and then return to the Lord.

I’ve been practicing the examen regularly since last fall, and I cannot tell you how valuable it has been for my spiritual growth. This habit of reflection is so very vital.

Someone said that “the unexamined life isn’t worth living.” For we just move through our days not noticing them, not taking the time to reflect and be thankful. God is with us at all times, speaking to us even, yet we may live our lives not paying attention to Him or His voice, which often is a gentle whisper. Thus the need to pay focused attention.

Many of us tend to live our days at the surface. But there is so much meaning to be mined at the depths of day-to-day life. The examen helps us do this very rewarding excavation. To just look back over your day with specific gratitude is enough to change your life. It’s been shown that writing down three things you are thankful for every day for 21 days actually rewires your brain toward greater happiness.

As you can see from the info graphic above, the Ignatian way of the examen has five steps. Many times I don’t make it past step two before falling asleep in heavenly peace. That’s ok. Remember the point of it all from yesterday: to be united to God. It is not about the practice itself. That’s why it is so important to experiment and actually do these things for a period of time–to see how it best draws you personally to the personal God. For instance, you don’t have to practice this only at bedtime. A short examen in the afternoon I have found to be a great break in my day for the purpose re-centering.

So the first step is simply asking God for insight and strength to make this examen a work of grace, fruitful beyond my human capacity alone. This is real. Believe that God will actually help you to do this. He wants to and will give you greater insight than your normal capacity. I believe God wants to bless you in this way. Perhaps after this request (or even before) you may just sit in His presence until you have some sort of sense of God being with you. Do not rush. Take three to five minutes to simply be still. Trust that God is with you. Immanuel.

Gratitude. This is such a rich and jugular practice in life. Note the gifts God’s love has given you this day, and thank God for them. Start from the beginning of your day noting the specific gifts bestowed upon you that you are not responsible for. This reminds us that God is the first reality, not us. God is, therefore, we are. Ignatius, who is given credit for this version of the prayer in the 16th century, only knew God as giving–One who bestows gifts of grace upon us freely and constantly, revealing through these gifts the infinite love with which we are loved.

It is very good to physically write these gifts down as it will better synthesize into our being. Over time, our attunement and awareness of God’s plentiful gifts will grow. We will notice them more and more in real time, and thus start to live at that higher consciousness I believe we were meant for. We will be in the moment, and full of gratitude within it.

“For Ignatius, recognizing God’s loving gifts and God’s loving presence through them–summarized in the word ‘gratitude’–lies at the very heart of our relationship with God.”


That last quote taken from The Examen Prayer by Timothy Gallagher, a beautiful book on this practice. In it, he has gratitude as step one and petition as step two FYI. Whatever works best for you.

In his book, it looks like this:

  1. Gratitude
  2. Petition
  3. Review
  4. Forgiveness
  5. Renewal
Always, only, for my King

4.3.15–>”First: The Point of it All”

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Mark 12:28-31

One of the legal experts came up and overheard the discussion. Realizing that Jesus had given a splendid answer, he put a question of his own.

“Which commandment,” he asked, “is the first one of all?”

“The first one,” Jesus replied, “is this: ‘Listen, Israel: the Lord your God , the Lord is one; and you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your understanding, and with all your strength.’

And this is the second one: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ No other commandment is greater than these.”

It is always good to start everything that is meaningful with the “why.”Before we begin exploring these foundational keystone habits of the Christian life, let us first discuss why we would even consider them.

What’s the point of it all?

I agree with the mystics that the point of it all is union with God.

Oneness.

“I and the Father are one,” Jesus said. And that is why He was able to do all He did. To say all He said. He was clear on this, on where it all came from. His father.

I believe the point of our entire lives is to become one with God through spiritual union. And the reason for even exploring spiritual practices of any kind is this.

To be united to God through Jesus Christ, empowered by the Holy Spirit.

God’s story as handed to us in all of Scripture is God revealing Himself and reaching out to humans to be united in love with them.

Isn’t it interesting that Jesus affirmed “commands” to love God and others? How do you command love? I mean, you can make a law that I must stand whenever the president enters the room or walks by, but you cannot force me to respect him or her in my heart. You can make laws not to murder, but you cannot demand that I have positive thoughts about others. Laws concern external actions. God is after much more.

I believe Jesus tells us that in order to fulfill this lofty command of love we must first fill ourselves with God who is love. As Augustine said, the Law of Christ gives what it commands. His command is actually an exhortation to transcend obligation and live on a higher plane, and this, through being united to God through Him so that it is even possible to live in this supernatural manner.

We reduce much of God and His desires for us to mere human striving and willpower. Though noble much of the time, I’m sure, it is futile. We try hard to love annoying people, or to overlook what we can’t stand in the name of piety. But YHWH transcends this, and desires the same transcendence for us–to bring us to the point where we actually see the beauty that is in the core, the soul, of every person, for they are all made in the image of God. With the new eyes of our rebirth we see people more accurately, for who they really are and who they were created to be. The annoyances and even evil actions are no longer the first thing we see. We now see first and foremost someone loved by God, made by God to love Him. We see or look for where God is already at work in their lives as He no doubt is and has been, wooing them to Himself since their birth, or perhaps even before.

And concerning our love for God, we tend to think we must conjure up feelings of affection for this unseen Spirit God which seems a formidable task to say the least.

And it is.

Before we encounter Him.

Before we are touched by God in actual experience. We love Him because He first loved us. Not because of anything we’ve done or proven to be worthy of. Just because we are. When you are touched by that, and believe it with your whole heart, you are changed. Our love for God must be a returning of love if it is to be authentic.

The only way we can fulfill these two commandments, on which everything else hangs, is to be filled with God.

That’s it. You can try hard all you want. You’re gonna get very, very tired.

And how do we fill ourselves with God? Ah, I’m so glad you asked that question. It brings us back to where we started today. We do our part by creating space in order for God to fill us, and this through foundational spiritual practices.

God does the heavy lifting, yet we must place ourselves in His path of grace. I love Tozer’s clever example of this. How does someone get a tan? Do you tan yourself, or does the sun tan you? The answer is of course that you tan yourself by exposing yourself to the sun. You have only to bring yourself into contact with the sun’s rays and the sun will take care of the rest.

Being filled with God gives us new life, sight, and consciousness that transcends human consciousness and abilities. Please, for the love of God, stop trying harder and simply be filled with the Holy Spirit.

So we create space for God’s Spirit to fill us up and live through us. If you are sick and want your favorite cup filled with healing tea, you must first empty it of the Mountain Dew with which it is already filled. There is no space in your cup for the tea to even enter. Yes, that Dew may taste good to you, but it ain’t doin’ a dang thing good for your body. And it’s taking up precious space that is meant for that tea!

Creating space for God to work in you does require effort on your part, but it is effort well spent because of its aim. It is smart effort, diligence. You will know God and yourself. And we need both to live whole lives.

This is why we talk about these practices, these “keystone habits.” Because of what they create space for, not what they do in and of themselves. The more meditation on Scripture and Jesus’ life I practice, the more at peace I am with God, myself, and others. The more unified with God I become. I do not do it to try to win the “Best Meditator in Indiana” trophy. Although now that I think about it, that would probably be a really cool trophy wouldn’t it? Or would it actually be plain and simple due to the nature of the contest?

Anyway, I look forward to exploring more of this tomorrow after having set this (hopefully clear) foundation of the “WHY” starting point.

Always, only, for my King

4.2.15–>”Keystone Habits as Foundational”

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Prefer Nothing

Psalm 19

The heavens declare the glory of God and nature shows His handiwork.

So I’m here with my fam at Saint Meinrad Archabbey this morning. We were loving our time here so much, we decided to stay an extra nite. Ana, not known for her spontaneity, checked her work calendar and said, “We can stay!” This place does funny things to a person.

It’s amazing being at a place that is so bathed in prayer. You feel it. I mean you can actually feel a palpable difference in peace, tranquility, quiet, and clarity. Something actually happens with your neurons, but that’s for a different day.

Lately. God has shown me so affirmitively that He is at work where I don’t always look or expect, and sometimes He is silent where I am looking. And in my looking, many times it is more my effort and conjuring in trying to get Him to do something than mere “looking.”. On my worst day, I treat God like what my daughters called me yesterday–a “trained monkey.” “Entertain us, trained monkey!” Zayra uttered from the backseat.

This is one of the many things I receive from coming to this wonderfulhaven of worship. I am set back in my proper place before my Creator who I can never control, but only surrender to. Two nites ago, I walked out to the car to get a bag and looked up. The stars. Beautiful. Awestruck was I. And for some reason I began thinking of the sun setting and rising. I began to contemplate the rhythmic rotation of earth. The greatness of it. I can’t really explain it, but it has given me a trembling awe before YHWH. More respect. More love. More surrender.

He is ineffable, incomprehensible. And yet He has reached out to us, revealed Himself in different ways–nature, Scripture, and ultimately in Jesus of Nazareth. He is too much. Of course, He is God. Here at Meinrad, you are in constant remindation of the greatness of our loving Creator and Sustainer. I can do no justice with words describing the rich times in nature we’ve had with Gaby & Zayra here.

Walking hand in hand with them noticing every beautiful thing God made–flowers, trees, water, turtles, fish, Chloe the monastery cat, the clouds, sky…

Just noticing and paying attention and giving thanks. I’m overwhelmed by the blessings of YHWH. And the, as if that’s not enough, every twenty feet or so Zayra would just burst out, “I love my daddy so much!” Taking time to notice, you never exhaust the list of gifts He has bestowed upon us every single day. My agendas go out the window as forgotten ridiculosity. So much that does not even enter my mind as there is a focus here of all that is actually important.

So thinking of foundational keystone habits that simply place us before God in love and gratitude and surrender. And allow Him to work as He will and maybe it will even be through us. I am so nothing without Jesus. I am understanding this just a bit more deeply. That it really is all Him. Yet at the same time, He is crazy about me because of all He has done for me. You and I are of infinite worth.

So we’ll take April to look at foundational keystone habits that have been game-changers for me, and that I believe will be for anyone who truly from the heart practices them. Because of their opening of your heart to be filled with God’s love.

  • The Examen
  • Lectio Divina
  • Spiritual Partnership
  • Memorization
  • Practicing the Presence of God
  • And much much more! (I don’t know if there’s any more, I just thought it’d be fun to say that)

I know this is a jumbled mess today, but it goes along with the fact that I am a jumbled mess today. A wonderful jumbled mess before the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit who was, and is, and is to come.

In the Name of Jesus,
Soli Deo Gloria

4.1.15–>”Small Wins”

Overwhelmed!

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Luke 10:41

You are worried, fretting, and fussing about so many things. (NRV)*

More and more lately I am seeing that the great enemy we are facing is being overwhelmed.

We try to keep up with and focus on so many things.

But usually there’s just one thing we need to institute–a “keystone habit.” Sometimes these are referred to as “small wins.”

Small wins are those little things we can definitely do, everyday, that will facilitate more small wins and give us an advantage that is disproportionate to the seemingly tiny keystone habit.

When I was a personal trainer, I encountered a lot of people who did not eat breakfast. So I would explain to them the vital importance it is on their metabolism to eat within an hour of waking. And as far as nutrition went, I would only have them focus on forming that habit of eating breakfast. “I don’t care if you eat fast food three times a day. Don’t worry about changing anything else, just eat breakfast,” I would tell them. Why? You don’t wanna overwhelm them. Changing everything today is way too much to even consider as a possibility. But hey, I can focus on one thing. I’ll work at eating something for breakfast to start my body burning calories everyday. And then, inevitably, what happens? You feel better from this new and good established habit, and you’re ready for more. You reap some benefits by better regulating your insulin levels, dropping some fat, feeling better, and it spurs you on to more.

One thing at a time. Establish it. Then move onward and upward. You can do this.


*New Roop Version–“Oh the NeRVe of this translation!”

Always, only, for my King

3.31.15–>”Shame in a Petri Dish”

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James 5:16

Make this your common practice: Confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you can live together whole and healed.

Brene Brown said this most interesting thing:

“If you put shame in a petri dish, it needs three ingredients to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence, and judgement. If you put the same amount of shame in the petri dish and douse it with empathy, it can’t survive.”

She also said that gratitude is the antidote to shame. Nothing will end self-loathing better than intentional gratitude–the ole writing-three-things-down-everyday-you’re-thankful-for trick.

What a great picture to illustrate this truth. As we see, God’s truths, as handed down to us through Scripture just keep coming alive and shown true thousands of years later.

By confession to one another, we expose our shame and sin to the light in which it can no longer live. We receive empathy from those who care about us deeply. We realize we are not alone. The enemy loves making us think we’re the only ones going through what we’re going through, or better yet, the first ones in history to face what we are facing.

I believe it was Michael Jackson who first uttered the words, “You Are Not Alone.”

OK, millions of people before him said it, but that’s the song going through my head right now.

You are not alone. You are not a freak. You are human going through the ups and downs of humanity. Do not keep silent! Do not live in secrecy! And stay away as much as possible from those who judge and do not accept your imperfections through genuine empathy.

Let’s expose this crap to the light, baby!!!

More than conquerors, am I right!

In the Name of Jesus,
Soli Deo Gloria

3.30.15–>”Younique”

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Psalm 139:13-16

Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out;
    you formed me in my mother’s womb.
I thank you, High God—you’re breathtaking!
    Body and soul, I am marvelously made!
    I worship in adoration—what a creation!
You know me inside and out,
    you know every bone in my body;
You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit,
    how I was sculpted from nothing into something.
Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth;
    all the stages of my life were spread out before you,
The days of my life all prepared
    before I’d even lived one day.

Thinking last nite and this morning of how God has equipped us simultaneously to do what every single person on earth can do, and also what no other person on earth can do except for you.

We are all made to love God. Every single one of us can turn our heart toward God and love Him with all of it. As has been said, “You can change your mind at any time.” We can all turn from sin and to God. That is not beyond any of us. If so, we’re screwed. Badly.

And yet, only you can love God with the heart He gave you. No one else can love God with your heart. No one else can love God as you were created to be.

This is rich to me. It’s the simplest thing we can do, yet the profoundest. 

God equips us to do what we are meant to do. We put so much pressure on ourselves as if we are all suppose to be divinely appointed rocket surgeons.

Well, I guess if that’s what we were all meant to be, our good and loving Creator would equip us accordingly. And we would have a plethora of healthy rockets lying around.

All you have to do is what every single person is capable of and yet what only you can and were meant to do: 

Love who you came from with the heart you were given.

Out of true love flows devotion and service with no feelings of obligation.

Be Yourself-Wilde

Always, only, for my King

Scripture

Scripture is given for our  instruction and edification. In its totality Scripture presents the God revealed in Jesus and whom we seek to follow. The story of his pursuit of humankind despite our unfaithfulness is a story of grace. Biblical revelation aids our attunement to God by helping us encounter the Lord God of heaven and earth, not simply the god of our imagination, childhood experience, or previous religious instruction.

David G. Benner

3.29.15–>”Rest & Play”

Psalm 127:2

It’s useless to rise early and go to bed late, and work your worried fingers to the bone. Don’t you know He enjoys giving rest to those He loves?

So Ana and I just got home from a weekend retreat down at Saint Meinrad, and we listened to some CDs in the car from a conference on vulnerability. Very enlightening.

The speakers said that in studying joyful people, people who considered themselves joyful and having joyful lives, that one common thread was that:

they all regularly practiced rest and play.

Now for those who don’t do this or understand these two vital-to-life actions, it drives them crazy. They think the joyful person lazy and inefficient.

How is your rest? Do you sabbath weekly?

How is your play? Do you play regularly?

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